The Beautiful Woman Syndrome
The beautiful woman syndrome (or the most beautiful woman syndrome, as it is sometimes called) will affect most men who pursue gorgeous women. However, most men won't recognize the symptoms of the beautiful woman syndrome (BWS), nor will they know how to effectively deal with it. Result? A man will usually fail to win the heart of the stunning woman, and he may feel somewhat bitter about his lack of success.
Appearance discrimination has been called The New Racism. The beautiful woman syndrome arises from appearance discrimination: thinking you're better because you're better looking. Racists think they're better, too.
What is it?
The beautiful woman syndrome (BWS) is characterized by:
Having the beautiful woman syndrome makes a woman more likely to:
“People put too much emphasis on looks.”
Objections to the beautiful woman syndrome prove it exists
Of course, not every beautiful woman has the beautiful woman syndrome, but a sure sign of it is someone who reads about it and goes berserk denying that it exists. Every two years or so some beautiful woman will come out of the woodwork spouting profanity and sounding unhinged, thus ironically manifesting the intolerance that is a hallmark of this syndrome, as she swears up and down—and just plain swears—that the syndrome doesn't exist.
Their crude messages also illustrate other BWS hallmarks: laziness and ignorance. This site contains one of the best articles ever written, submitted by an intelligent beautiful woman acutely aware that she has the beautiful woman syndrome. But the BWSers who rely on profanity, not real-world evidence, are too lazy and self-centered to read what others write or care if it is true. Why bother when they're convinced they know it all?
BWSers, being know-it-alls, often think their opinions should prevail even when they conflict with the reality the rest of us see: that beautiful women are indeed put on pedestals and given special treatment, which often inflates their self-assessments so they think more of themselves and less of others. The fact that the beautiful woman syndrome exists is so obvious to so many that anyone who denies its existence is not fully tuned into reality.
A common misconception amongst BWS deniers is that I must be bitter because I never dated a beautiful woman. Wrong! I dated several, some of whom were exceptionally gorgeous and perfectly normal, but too many of which were mean, nasty people who treated others like dirt and thought they were royalty just because they were hot. They had a hair-trigger for criticizing others, often finding the most ridiculously trivial reasons to ridicule them.
These endless condemnations had a clear motive: by putting others down, the BWSers seemed better in comparison and thus inflated their narcissism without having to do anything to justify a bigger ego. The beautiful woman syndrome is all about ego, and to a BWSer, the bigger the ego, the better.
In cultures that put attractive people on a pedestal, the beautiful woman syndrome is inevitable, so if you have it, I am not blaming you for what is clearly a cultural problem.
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“Most beautiful dumb girls think they are smart and get away with it, because other people, on the whole, aren't much smarter.”
— Louise Brooks